Not everything is black and white, and not everyone should be judged as a pure villain or a pure hero. It’s easy to forget that each person is dealt a unique set of circumstances, shaped by their own struggles and choices. Most people are simply trying to do the best they can with the cards they’ve been dealt by time.
This is something I need to remind myself of—because I’ve been guilty of judging too. There have been times when I didn’t agree with someone’s choices or the way they handled things. And even now, I may not agree with certain methods or decisions. But I have come to realise that no matter how right I believe my truth to be, it’s still just my perspective. I can’t truly know what another person has been through or what led them to their choices.
I’ve also realised that judgment rarely exists in isolation—it often brings resentment with it. The more I focus on how someone should have acted differently or dwell on how I was wronged, the more I hold onto frustration, disappointment, or even anger. But the truth is, that weight serves no purpose. And it certainly doesn’t change the past.
I have plenty of flaws, but if there are two qualities I’m grateful for, they are my immunity to greed and my ability to deal with the feeling of revenge. I usually find it easy to forgive, and once again, I see that releasing the burden of resentment is the better choice. Does that mean I will accept behaviours that are harmful or detrimental to myself and my loved ones? Absolutely not. I will always protect and defend what matters.
However, through this I’ve learned that the key to moving forward is acceptance. There are no absolute villains or heroes—just people, each carrying their own burdens. Time is the ultimate judge and the best teacher. Like the quiet movement of the stars, it works in ways we don’t always understand. Only in hindsight do we see the bigger picture, as cycles come full circle, and time reveals the wisdom we couldn’t grasp before.
If you’ve been through tough times in life, I hope this helps you find a way to move on—with a little less weight on your shoulders.